by Just Josie
(Chapel Hill, NC)
I'm in my late 40's now and grew up in a abusive and neglectful home. Looking back I feel abandoned. From time to time anxiety comes over me. I have a good life now and want to release the stranglehold from my childhood. I notice when I have an injury it sends me into a downward spiral making recovery from the injury much harder than it needs to be. Can you help me sort this thinking out?
As soon as we can walk, we start getting hurt, falling down, scraping knees, bumping heads. In an abusive or neglectful home, sometimes getting hurt might be the only time a kid gets any caring attention. Or worse, it may be at those times of getting hurt that it is most painfully obvious that nobody is coming to your rescue. So getting physically hurt may be a reminder of abandonment and emotional trauma.
If you have a long history of abuse in your childhood, there is a lot of work to be done to release those traumatic memories. Traumas are stored in the body. They are like energetic impressions on your nervous system, and some say, even stored in the cells of the body.
One of the best ways that I have found to release childhood or past trauma, is Meridian Tapping/EFT. You can learn to use this technique on yourself to heal emotional issues and even speed physical healing very rapidly in many cases. You can also use this method with the guidance of a trained practitioner or therapist if the issues and feelings feel too overwhelming to tackle alone.
Ben Schwarcz, MFT
Santa Rosa Psychotherapist
Tapping Into Joy: Meridian Tapping and Mindfulness for Depression