by Marcus
(El Paso, TX USA)

My wife's friends asked her if she wanted to go to Florida for a week without their husbands. I'm not OK with that but i know she will resent me for it, what should i do??

Ben's Answer:

If you are sure she will resent you for telling her not to go, then maybe you just need to work on your own issues around trust. If you really love her and trust her, then it should be no different than if she was going to spend the weekend at her friend's house in town. Controlling our partners in an effort to keep them from straying, or leaving us will only hurt a relationship. If she's done nothing to betray your trust before, then this fear is your own to deal with. Practicing trust, builds more trust.

Take Care,
Ben Schwarcz

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