My husband and I have been married for 10 years. We are both in our early thirties and have 2 children. We have a history of not fighting fairly when we disagree. This past year, after our second son was born, my husband began pushing my feelings to the side. Not spending a lot of time at home and the most important thing, ignored my birthday. No "Happy Birthday", card, nothing!!!! He also, has said some really nasty things to me as well, while fighting. Things like "I don't know If I love you anymore", "Bitch", "Your a bad mom", too many things to list actually. All which I feel were unwarranted. Even though he has said sorry, I sometimes feel like I cannot trust him or his intentions for the rest of our marriage. He says I am insecure and should seek therapy and none of this is his fault.
My question is: Is it wrong to blame him for my trust issues? I feel his actions and harsh words have over time caused me not to trust him. Even though he has not given me any proof of infidelity, it is so hard for me to think that it is not possible, based on his actions. Like I don't trust his heart or feelings.
Ben's Answer:
The things your husband are saying to you in anger, are abusive. Emotionally and verbally abusive. I see no reason to have 100% trust in a person that is abusing you. As for infidelity - it's an understandable thing for you to feel insecure about, if your husband is ignoring you and putting you down, and spending a lot of
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