Strange room mate
(Palisades Park NJ)
I am gay and have lived with my room mate for 13 years now. In the beginning we were a couple but I soon realized it would never work. So I told him this and he agreed that I could stay in his 2 bedroom apartment and pay half the rent which I have done without being late. Recently I've noticed that when I drink the milk in the refrigerator and I sometimes get really dizzy and feel sick. I have had tests from my doctor and nothing is wrong with me. I then thought the milk was left in the front of the refrigerator where it went through temperature changes so I have kept it in the back. I have noticed that when I first get the milk everything is fine and then 1 or 2 days later it gets that weird characteristic. I am starting to think that my room mate is going through some sort of depression and might be adding something to the milk. I can not prove this and have thought of a secret camera. I am definitely not paranoid as I have contemplated this. I am not sure how to handle this situation...
I'm not judging you at all here - but that does sound a bit paranoid. You don't need to get a camera to investigate something like this - just take the milk to a lab and have it tested for contaminants if you really want to know for sure.
Maybe after 13 years with your room mate it's time for a change of living situation?
On another note, it may be possible that you're allergic to milk - although I've never heard of this particular reaction. I personally think that pasteurized cow's milk is not good for anyone. The milk industry pours tons of money into their "Got Milk" campaign because they're a massive industry, motivated by big profits. And that mass produced non-organic milk is often raised in very poor factory-farm conditions.
Most people who are "lactose intolerant" and can't handle store bought milk, are just fine when they drink organic, raw (unpasteurized) milk. Raw milk is the way nature intended it to be, is far cleaner, and is full of health benefits that pasteurized (dead) milk is lacking. But this is hard to find in most places and there is a popular myth that unpasteurized milk is dangerous.
Goat's milk is another option that is much better for you than typical cows milk.
I didn't mean to make this a rant about milk! Hope that's of some help.
If you're worried, get the milk tested - or drink something else. Or move out.
Ben Schwarcz, MFT
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