by Erika
I'm 20 years old. I've noticed that when i fantasize about sex while masturbating, I'm most turned on only when I imagine woman's body. Or I sort of put myself into man's shoes and what he's doing to her. I think I had it before, but never really noticed. Plus I've never had an orgasm with a man, only masturbating. But I've never checked women out and basically always thought I was straight. Is it normal or maybe I might be turning lesbian/bi?
Ben's Answer:
I don't believe anyone really "turns" Lesbian or Bisexual - but we all lie somewhere on the scale between straight and gay. And often those who have some same sex attraction, deny it, or bury those feelings because they don't want to accept it or be labeled by others. I believe it's important to be true to your feelings and see what makes you happy. There is no right or wrong about it and you don't have to put a label on yourself. Experience life and trust your feelings without judging yourself.
Take Care,
Ben Schwarcz, MFT
Santa Rosa Psychotherapist
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