In love with two?

I seem to have strong feelings for two men in my life. Is it possible to be in love with two people? I really don't like the way these feelings mess with me and I want to be able to settle down with just one man but I can't seem to bring myself to do it. After breaking up with someone who completely tore apart my self esteem for three years, I feel like I haven't been able to settle down in a happy, healthy relationship. For instance, in one of my relationships, I wear the pants and its almost all about sex (at least that's what it feels or seems like) and the other one, its more of an emotional connection with little sex involved. I'm very confused.

Ben's Answer:

Yes, it's possible to love more than one person at the same time - but very complicated to maintain that. I think the place to do some house cleaning is that past 3 year relationship that trashed your self-esteem. Clear that out of your mind, and you will probably gain a lot of clarity about what you want, and one of these men will emerge as the right choice. Take yourself out of the mental conflict and indecision and work on that past relationship that's still affecting you.

As usual, I'd recommend EFT as the most direct, fast and easy way to let go of any past trauma or negative experiences that you'd rather forget for good.

Take Care,
Ben Schwarcz, MFT

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