Husbands spanking wives

by Lynn
(Cincinnati, Oh )

My husband and I have been married almost 25 years. We have been fighting a lot lately. I hate to admit it, but I am the one who usually starts it. My husband said he is going to start spanking me if I don't stop. He spanked me a couple of times when we were dating, but that was over 25 years ago. I do remember those spankings were really hard. Is that abuse?

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Apr 03, 2017
Husbands spanking wives
by: Ben

If you like being spanked by your husband, or if you want him to, and you are not being coerced, forced, manipulated or threatened to allow him to do this, then it would not be "abuse."

But if this is truly unwanted, and if he is spanking you, or threatening to spank you, against your will, then yes, this could be considered "abuse."

If you are starting fights with your husband, I suggest you see a couples therapist with him to sort out what's going on between you and help you to find some healthy ways of communicating and expressing feelings.

Take Care,

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