by Anastasia
(Very small town, Alaska)
Hello.
Long story short… I met a man and we dated for a month. Had sex five times. Everything seamed good (except for the lack of sex). He broke it off because he wanted to get his life in order. Found out I was pregnant one week later. He wanted to get back together and we both moved in together and started planning life for us and the baby. During this time there was a TON of stress i.e. huge financial problems, unemployment, his pet of 25 years died, his parents were pressuring him to get his life together, he had to meet my family (he is shy so this was hard), our home that we invested in flopped, and the list goes on…
We have been together now for 7 months, we have had sex 7 times… He said that he isn’t sexually attracted to me. I can do stuff that makes him noticeably aroused (erection), but he just rolls over. I have discovered some history…
-He started looking at porn mags with his dad at age 5 (is this strange); his mother seemed to think this was normal?
-He grew up isolated away from all people but mom, dad and brother.
-He went to a public high school for a few years. He said that he can’t remember ever going to school…repressed memories? But he can remember and tell stories about his swim team.
-His parents encouraged him to go to strip clubs and they are okay with the brother’s history of going to prostitutes.
-In his teens his life goal/dream was to merry and have children.
-In his late teens he married a girl, when he left to join the military, she cheated on him (got knocked up) by his pastor (he was raised agnostic).
-He got kicked out of the military for anger issues.
-Got married again to a woman that was much older than him that already had children, when he was away from home, she cheated on him with his brother.
-Got divorced again, dated a stripper for several years. He told me that they didn’t have sex much and this bothered her.
- He broke up with the stripper this year; he dated a girl for three months that was an alcoholic and hardcore drug user, she lied and said she was pregnant (she told me that he didn’t have sex with her much)… He started dating me a few months later. He said that he felt dirty after his last relationship and didn’t like being touched.
-He said that when he was younger he would cut himself to help with pain.
-He also used to drink excessively to blackout. He still drinks some.
-His family (including mom) is extremely homophobic… He is too.
-He is a little weird about looking at pregnant women nursing etc. in my books.
-He acts totally repulsed when he sees a man’s backside (butt) in a movie.
-He was supper affectionate; a woman’s dream come true (but just no sex).
-About a month ago we moved to where he grew up (rural with no other people for miles). He gets upset when we have to go to town to get the mail. He hates people.
-Two weeks ago he stopped talking to me and became supper strange about the house (it was never clean enough). I asked him what was going on….he cried and said he was unhappy.
-He asked me to leave a few days ago… I moved back home to
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