Why did therapist ask that?

I go to a therapist once every week and have for two years. He is very helpful. I have ADD and am better but sometimes still unorganized. I have been late maybe five times in two years and each time call to say so. Each time it has been 5-10 minutes and I don't expect him to extend the time. Last week we met after I was late (I called) and all seemed fine but at the end he asked why I was late, saying he was just curious. I told him why--traffic due to a detour I didn't know about. I said I was sorry, and he said it was no problem but he wondered. It was weird. Why do you think he asked that?


Ben's Answer:
Even though there was a seemingly unavoidable reason for being late (traffic), many therapists will inquire about things like being late because there are often unconscious reasons why we do things. Procrastination, avoidance, fear, lack of focus, or not being mindful are all possible reasons why a person might be late, and talking about it in therapy can sometimes lead to important insights about yourself. On the other hand, it could just be a traffic jam ;)

If it feels awkward, I think it is completely reasonable to ask your therapist why he asked you about that.

Best Wishes,
Ben Schwarcz

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