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Ben, thank you for your help.......i do have a question though.......is it normal (if i can put it that way) for someone with the issues my bf has to go to porn sites and be assumed by beautiful women......its not like he can't be with me intimately whenever he needs to.....i have been told this could be one of bipolar affects also......this really bothers me.......
thanks again , CJ
Ben's Answer:
Could be - but hard to say for sure. It is common for people in the manic (elevated mood) state of bipolar disorder to have intensified sex drive, attraction to sex, impulsive sexual encounters, and for some, porn. This would be much less likely during the depressive episodes of bipolar disorder. If he's low energy, depressed, and using porn, it's more likely that this is just a separate issue from his bipolar disorder. Another way to know is to see if he's only attracted to porn during certain mood states, but not during others - so it's not a constant obsession. If it's more of a consistent habit, it may be an addiction.
Mar 23, 2010 Rating
Don't take it personally by: Ben
I think it is best to not take his behavior, or his unhappiness personally. It has nothing to do with you. And if you take it as a personal rejection, you're likely to just make him feel more guilty and ashamed and depressed. Of course you have to have your limits for how much you're willing to take. You could try telling him that you can only stay with him if he gets some professional help.
Mar 23, 2010 Rating
boyfriend with bipolar depression by: Connie Williams
its me again......haven't had much luck with this issue thus far.....over the weekend he seemed ok gradually coming out of it only to go right back in it Sunday night...here it is Tuesday and still no talking or anything......i was so frusterated yesterday i told him if he was that unhappuy with me that he had to stay mad all the time for him to just go....he didn't have to stay with me....we just got an appartment together and i told him to take what he paid for and go......but he didn't(yet), part of me wants to think he didn't go because he does love me and wants to be with me another part thinks he just likes tormenting me.....maybe i am wrong for thnking that because he may be in torment himself i just don't know...............what is your opinion on this one?
thanks,
CJ
Mar 18, 2010 Rating
boyfriend with bipolar depression by: Anonymous
Thank you so much for your advise.....i will try this and hopefully it will work........i will keep you posted and in the mean time pray I can convince him to get help......
