Comments for Accused of stealing from my only sister

Jun 24, 2010
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Accused of stealing from my only sister
by: Anonymous

Thank you for listening to me and especially agreeing to the fact that I have every right to keep my daughter away from the pain that my sister is giving me. my grandmas thinks differently.
My grandma says she is neutral about it and loves us both, but she dont understand what she has done to me. My mom has stood by my side from the beginning, she told my sister she still loves her but she thinks she made a very bad decision.
I have started working on me and trying to move on from this awful feeling i have of betrayal from the sister i loved so very much.
I still want to prove to her with a lie detector test, just so she may want to apologize someday, but why? why do i still want to prove my innocence? why is so important for me to have her know that i would never do such a thing? I know i will never feel the same way towards her again.

Ben's Reply

It's natural to want to prove to her that you are innocent, so that she will apologize and you'll get your sister back. She owes you an apology. She made a mistake. You can't have a functional relationship with a person who has judged and condemned you - especially when the accusations are false.

Focus on your own peace and happiness and don't wait for her to come around. Try not to be bitter towards her. It's her loss too. Someday she may wake up and realize what she's done. If you let go and make peace with yourself, then maybe you'll be able to let her back into your life if she ever wants to heal her relationship with you in the future.