I never accept a second chance proposal from men I once loved 
Hi, thanks for reading about my situation.
I am very confused. I am a giver in relationships. When I am in a relationship, I am loyal and devoted. I ...

advertising my art business 
Hello. I'm a portrait painter full-time. I can draw and paint from life, but I am more comfortable working from photographs in the comfort of my own home....

A man is constantly staring at me, and I would like to know why? 
He always seems to stare at me. My department is across from his department, and when I would leave my department to go to the restroom--he could see ...

Is he gay, depressed, on drugs and/or paranoid? I need my brother back! 
I'm writing about my brother, because I don't know how to help him and I feel like my relationship (and my family’s relationship) with him is slipping ...

How do I leave my lazy husband? 
I have been married to my husband for nearly 5 years. We are 32(me) and 39(him) yr old. We probably got married for the wrong reasons, and have stayed ...

How to Respond Husband's Critical Comments  
My husband constantly worries about what my daughter and I eat. I am 5'4" and weigh 127 pounds. I eat really healthy most of the time. My daughter is ...

Under the Gun! 
There's many things that are hard to get a handle on. But there is one inparticular that I just can't seem to get a grasp on.

About six years ago my ...

EMDR is Overwhelming 
I have only had 2 sessions with a newly trained social worker. I felt fine when I left but have had outbursts, dreams and a feeling like too much is coming ...

Confused. Really, Really, Confused. 
Hey. So,
I dont know if anyone is actually reading this but I do hope someone is so i can get some help :/
Im fifteen. In first grade this boy who was ...

I'm on my 5th Therapist - How do I get what I need in therapy? 
"I have a really hard time opening up to people and discussing things I want/should discuss. This is an issue with my friends and family and also in therapy....

Weird Sexuality? 
Basically I have been very attracted to and loving towards girls my whole life. At school I get erections like crazy for them. One night I was looking ...

Bipolar Loved One in Denial 
When a family member is suspected of being Bipolar - what is the best way to approach/treat our loved one? Our loved one does not see the signs and symptoms ...

Diaper Fetish 
For about 6 years now I have been doing something that most people think is abnormal. I have tried to stop but I have something driving me to keep doing ...

5 Year Old Thumb Sucking 
My 5 year old sucks his thumb non stop, he also licks everything.... and sucks on his clothing.
ie: the other day walking down the street he was licking ...

How to Choose a Therapist 
I am interested in starting psychotherapy. Should I choose a therapist with a specific specialty? I mean how can I know if Psychoanalysis or Gnostic psychology ...

Recurring Nightmares About My Family 
When I was little, my older sister was very jealous of me. She will tell you that now. She used to tell my cousins not to play with me and I always got ...

Clients Need To Be Aware Of Therapist Abuse 
What kind of trust factor do you think a client should have if they ever need to get counseling again, after finding out their LSW, LMFT, with a masters ...

confused.  Not rated yet
When I was either five or six, my mom took me to her friend's family party. I had had a kids-type of crush on my mom's friend's brother (who was at the ...

Can lack of vaginal sex lead to erectile dysfucntion?  Not rated yet
To whom it may concern,
How are you doing? I hope this e-mail finds you in the best of health. I hope you can answer my questions about "possible ...

9-Year Old with a Diaper Fetish  Not rated yet
Hello, I am a 38 yr old mother of a 9yr old boy who has had a fixation with diapers since he was 4 or 5. 2 years ago I discovered the websites that discuss ...

Wife threatening to leave  Not rated yet
hello, my name is Justin and me and my wife are having pretty major problems. It's about my parents who live across the street from us; She thinks they ...

What do I do?  Not rated yet
You said I should talk to somebody I trust about my depressed feelings.. The only person I can possibly trust is my teacher who has been absent for more ...

Teen Depression  Not rated yet
I am in my early-teen years, I have very frequent mood swings accompanied by the signs of teen depression. Most of the time I am really depressed but for ...

Humor Therapy  Not rated yet
How are you today?
My name is Buruk, and I am a High school student, I am currently taking Med Prep. I am doing a project on Humor Therapy, which involves ...

Abused Without Being "Abused"  Not rated yet
I have a long history that I will try to sum up briefly. I have a somewhat neglectful childhood, but nothing that seems bad enough to have really contributed ...

7 year old uses 'kill myself' flippantly  Not rated yet
My son who turns 8 this month has said he wants to kill himself twice in the past month. The first time he was just hanging out in the office with myself ...

Moving too fast - no time for the soul  Not rated yet
Thanks a lot for your very quick response to my worry. I would like to clarify that I speak a bit fast since childhood. From quite sometime, there has ...

Borderline Personality Disorder and Self Awareness  Not rated yet
I am 24 years old and therapists have gone back and forth about whether or not I have Borderline Personality Disorder. The diagnosis was initially on my ...

Difficulty in speaking and writing due to depression  Not rated yet
Dear All,

I have been enjoying a very good academic and business career along with a good family life. I am aged 36. Since quite some time, I feel some ...

Could I be suffering from ADD?  Not rated yet
I am not sure who to ask this question before seeking actual care.

I think I may be suffereing from ADD. Lately, I can't seem to concentrate on anything....

Erotic Transference or Is My Therapist Hitting on Me?  Not rated yet
I cannot tell whether my therapist is being supportive or whether he is encouraging an erotic transference. He has said things to me like "It can never ...

Ghosts  Not rated yet
Is it possible that my fear of ghosts is rubbing off on my 3 yr old because every night shes afraid of "monsters in her room"?

Ben's Answer:

It'...

Teenage Sexuality  Not rated yet
Is it normal for a 15 year old male to be attracted to members of the same sex? Before puberty, I was attracted to girls my age and now, I fantasize about ...

Depression Medication Not Helping Chronic Depression  Not rated yet
I have tried virtually every depression medication out there over the last 15 years , In combo with each other etc. I'm 54 and can't seem to get a positive ...

Very Conflicted About Sex Drive  Not rated yet
I am a very isolated young adult, but I am happy and have no real urge to change this. My problem is that I have a very active sex drive, but no desire ...

Trust - Part 2  Not rated yet
You recommended that I should speak to an adult about how I felt... Actually today my teacher saw me standing alone during the school break and she started ...

adolescent depression  Not rated yet
I have been going through mood swings for the last 8 or 9 weeks, sometimes I was fine but others I felt terrible and it is difficult to get out of bed ...

Possible rape affecting ability to have romantic relationships  Not rated yet
I'm a 20-year-old female college student. When I was 17 I met guy at a large convention in my hometown at the beginning of the summer before my senior ...

I Hate Myself for Loving My Therapist  Not rated yet
Hello, since I figured out and disclosed my transference feelings to my therapist, I'm confused if therapy will work for me like it did before. My therapist ...

Teen Depression  Not rated yet
My 15 yr old was diagnosed with depression and was prescribed Zoloft.

I heard that this drug has a black box for teens and young adults. The psychiatrist ...

Step father video taping step daughter  Not rated yet
I am so "stuck" in what happened to me/my family/my daughter 5 years ago. My oldest child, Nicole, now 24 years old, is not my ex-husband's child. I ...

girl-girl kissing... 5 & 8 years old. What do i say?  Not rated yet
I'm freaking out. I'm currently staying with my sister-in-law. And she has a 8 year old daughter. My daughter is 5. They have become the best of friends ...

Always disappointed by people  Not rated yet
If everything in your life seems to go wrong is it exclusively your own fault? When friends disappoint you, while your relationships with the other sex ...

Help Me.  Not rated yet
There are so many things I would like to touch down on I do not know where to begin. I feel like a half person, a failure, of little more worth than nothing....

Suicidal  Not rated yet
I have been diagnosed as having depression for more than a year now. I see a therapist and am taking medicine. I have tried more than six antidepressants ...

Should I take a break from my boyfriend?  Not rated yet
I have been with my boyfriend for a little over 4 years (since i was 19) We have the greatest relationship. We get along great, we never fight and he is ...

I Live for Danger. What is wrong with me?   Not rated yet
I was fine in my early youth, I got good grades and was even social. But, as I got older I changed. I was separated from all six of my siblings by my father,...

Why does my heart feel like it's imploding?  Not rated yet
Ben, For most of my life I've wrestled with my emotional issues, many of them have to do with being left behind by many of the people I've cared about ...

Daughter is afraid controlling father  Not rated yet
how can I help my daughter stop being so afraid of her controlling father? He is very controlling and she is not getting to have a normal kid life at the ...

How do I tell my mom I want a therapist?  Not rated yet
How do i tell my mom I'm depressed and that I want a therapist? I wish I could tell her but I know she'd think it's stupid because she thinks it's dumb ...

Sad but why?  Not rated yet
Sometimes I get this heavy hearted feeling like I become sad and feel like I'm gonna cry. But I don't always cry and when I do it's only for about 2-5 ...

Why is it so hard for me to get started?  Not rated yet
I've been playing bass guitar on and off for about 3 years. I don't know why its so hard for me to practice. I want to be perfect right away and I don'...

Can a Childhood Trauma Cause Bipolar Disorder?   Not rated yet
Can you get bipolar due to you going through a horrible tragedy as a child and never finding peace with your self?

Ben's Answer:

Yes and No. Bipolar ...

Relationship Honesty  Not rated yet
Before I got married I told my wife I had a threesome with two women, I told her to never ask me this question again. She admitted to me yesterday that ...

Social Anxiety   Not rated yet
I think I have social anxiety disorder. I'm 18 and in college starting again on tuesday. I hate going. I don't talk to anyone in classes, I have nothing ...

How to solve depression without pills???  Not rated yet
I'm sleeping and crying all the time, and walking alone in this open field because I choose to, and poetry club only because my teacher is the only one ...

My 6 yr old "opens up" - false abuse allegations  Not rated yet
I will try to sum this up in a short form for you.... I have a 6 yr. old son that is very sociable, happy & well rounded child. He recently went to visit ...

I'm in love with an abuser I left over a year ago  Not rated yet
Five years ago I met a Man on his birthday, I had just gotten out of a four year common law relationship, followed by a year of meeting one loser after ...

Trust  Not rated yet
My wife's friends asked her if she wanted to go to Florida for a week without their husbands. I'm not OK with that but i know she will resent me for it,...

Depressed about life, too busy to help myself.  Not rated yet
I am in Pharmacy school, and it is a very busy program. Per semester we average about 9 courses, with extra presentations outside of class time, and I ...

Constant massaging head and hands of spouse in public  Not rated yet
My sister-in-law who got married about a year ago, is always touching her husband in public, constantly, when we are at my mother-in-law's house, where ...

How can I help my niece as her Mom is suicidal?  Not rated yet
Hello,

I need some assistance and guidance. My niece is thirteen years old and over the last five years her Mom has been living with depression. Recently,...

Native English Speaker  Not rated yet
I don't know if a therapist is who I would ask for help about this topic, but I don't know who else to ask. I've been noticing this for a long time, but ...

ADD, Bipolar, or Spiritual Crisis?  Not rated yet
Is there any relation between the symptoms of add/adhd and bipolar syndrom and spiritual crisis? Because they seem similar. I am quite confused, but I ...

Nylon Fetish  Not rated yet
I have been seeing a therapist. She brought up the subject of sex. Then she asked me if I had any fetishes, and I told her yes a fetish for nylons. She ...

Trapped In Her Mind?  Not rated yet
My best friend, who is 17 claims that she is 'trapped' in her own mind and mood. She used to be able to open up to me about anything, now she can't talk ...

Am I suicidal if I have thoughts about jumping off of a building?  Not rated yet
It makes me very nervous to think about jumping or falling from a really high place. When I think about falling (or visualize it), I start to shake and ...

Physical Contact  Not rated yet
Is it normal to feel physical pain due to lack of physical contact from your husband? Is it also normal to withdraw under these circumstances as there ...

I Don't Want to Be Happy  Not rated yet
I have extremely severe depression and anxiety. I can't work. I don't leave the house. I don't have any friends. I can't function at all. I have been hospitalized ...

Second Guessing Oneself / Driving Myself Crazy  Not rated yet
Sometimes I ask myself a question, think about it, answer myself and then I go back and try to remember the question I asked and can't remember. If I ...

Sudden changes in boyfriends behavior: torture and biting.  Not rated yet
My boyfriend of four years (age 60. I am 49), who has always been sweet and romantic, one year ago has began to be distant sexually. However, continued ...

Not Using the Bathroom  Not rated yet
My 15 year old refuses to go to the bathroom or drink liquids of any kind. She says she hates going to the bathroom and we do not understand this behavior....

Sudden Change in Sleep Causes Depressed Feelings?  Not rated yet
I used to sleep all day or only for a few hours a day for a month. A few days ago I abruptly changed my sleep times and slept at night. I feel messed up ...

Will Holistic Treatment Work for my Major Depression?  Not rated yet
I was divorced 6 months ago and was really depressed. I am now on 150 mg Effexor and I am still feeling depressed. I had 3 months of therapy that helped....

Anxious Self-Centered Friend  Not rated yet
I have a friend who has a few issues. She has been seeing a therapist for over 8 years now and she has some anxious tendencies. She cannot sit still, she ...

Afraid of Losing my Therapist  Not rated yet
I have a wonderful therapist that I have been seeing for about 3 years now. He has helped me through a lot of stuff and been there for me. He is the ...

Delayed Symptoms From Combat  Not rated yet
Is it possible to start having bad symptoms after being home for several years after serving in combat?

Ben's Answer:

Yes it is possible and it ...

He Cheated and Now Cannot Touch Me  Not rated yet
He cheated a year ago with a "Fatal Attraction" type woman. I forgave him and we have been trying to work things out. We have been together for ten years....

Can't Stop Talking to Myself!  Not rated yet
I have talked to myself at least since I was a teenager, I am now 33. I had no friends and was very lonely growing up. I believe it started as a way to ...

Problem with my Fiance  Not rated yet
I'm a female - 25 years old...engaged and getting married in about 2-3 months ... with my boyfriend who I've known since I was 16 years. He is older than ...

Dealing with elderly Father  Not rated yet
My father is 85 and he remarried after my Mother passed away. I get along fine with his wife and him except for the fact that he calls me with all of ...

College  Not rated yet
I've been attending the University of Texas at Dallas for the last 3 years as an accounting major. My first year, I had some organizational problems and ...

Making choices/finish what You Start  Not rated yet
How do you make it easier to make decisions?..

I've tried to go to school so many times.. I never finish a single semester.. I drop the classes never ...

I Was Abused As A Child  Not rated yet
When I was 9 or 10, I was molested by a couple of older, teenage boys. My parents had never talked to me about sex and I really didn't know what was right ...

I cant get rid of these thoughts!  Not rated yet
I always think I am doing something wrong or bad and that I should be ashamed of myself. I always think that what I do effects the outcome of my day, so ...

Shyness  Not rated yet
Hello, I'm a very confident person but when I get the feeling that a guy likes me I have to push him away or ignore him, basically do anything that would ...

Fear of Commitment  Not rated yet
I've had this weird issue with guys my entire life. I love the chase and beginning stages of hooking up with someone but once I realize it is no longer ...

Wife in Love with Her Old Roommate?  Not rated yet
I have learned that my wife's old roommate has found her online. They were very good friends that lived and worked together. I read their emails and ...

Is EMDR right for me?  Not rated yet
I am a 28 yrs old female. I have had many traumas in my life from physical to sexual traumas and I am diagnosed with PSTD and Bipolar Disorder 1. I was ...

Partner Asking for Time  Not rated yet
What does it mean when your girl friend is asking for some time??

Ben's Answer :

Rule #1 - don't pretend to know what girls mean when they say mysterious ...

Can 7-Year-Olds Have Anxiety?  Not rated yet
My 7 year old girl has what seems to be panic attacks. She fears everything, death, Hell, the dark, ghosts, being alone, going upstairs by herself... she ...

Paranoid or Just Anxious?  Not rated yet
Ok I'm a 15 year old male and I think I suffer from a paranoia disorder. I have searched anxiety/paranoia disorders on the internet but none of them match ...

In Love with my Best Friend  Not rated yet
I have known a girl for about 6 years. I have always liked her. She tells me I am her best friend. Even though I have feelings for her we have both ...

Overwhelmed with Creativity   Not rated yet
I'm writing a book or at least I think I am. I believe it to be great and something of beauty. Problems is, it's curing and affecting my thinking at the ...

Too Late to Resolve Sexual Abuse?  Not rated yet
I was molested as a child. Sexually assaulted by a family member at age 15. I have never told anyone about these things and I never will tell anyone in ...

Boyfriend Can't Get It Up  Not rated yet
I have been dating a guy for 5 months, we have never had intercourse because he cant seem to get it up or when he does it goes flat fast. I have asked ...

Schizophrenia or Bipolar?  Not rated yet
I think I have schizophrenia or bipolar. One minute I'm fine and then I'm in love with my best friend and go crazy and cry, but something triggers it, because ...

My Mother is Driving Me Nuts!  Not rated yet
This could be the longest posting on your site, I think, but I am going to only address what bothers me most about my relationship with my mother. I have ...

What is a Hero?  Not rated yet
What is the true defination of a hero?

Ben's Answer :

Someone who transcends her own limitations, risks everything, and forgets herself, while helping ...

Reactive Attachment Disorder  Not rated yet
I am a 15 year old girl who was adopted at the age of 5 and I was wondering if it is possible for me to have RAD (reactive attachment disorder). I tend ...

Break-Up Advice  Not rated yet
I have a 14 month old son with my ex-partner. I split with him 2 years ago after having been with him 3 years, as he was violent and aggressive. One year ...

Young Wife and Mother  Not rated yet
I'm 21 married and I have a 9 month old. We got pregnant and jumped into a marriage, because that's what you are supposed to do. I don't think I love my ...

Suicidal Friend...  Not rated yet
I am a 16 year old male who has been involved with a girl my age for about a year. I recently broke it off because we had been arguing.
Following the ...

Drugs in a relationship  Not rated yet
I've known this girl for a long time, going on 7 years now, and both of us are in college now. We recently just became mush closer as she used to live ...

Child of Divorce  Not rated yet
My nine year old niece was happy and nothing was going on with her until a couple months ago. Her parents are divorced so her father gets her every-other ...

Ethical Query  Not rated yet
If you had a client who confided in you and told you he had an STD and was sexually active with his partner, how would you go about the situation?

Ben'...

Giving Up On Life Because My Life is Miserable  Not rated yet
Is my life miserable?

Story of my life, I sometimes think that my life is so miserable that I want to end it. first, since I was 13 I have been struggling ...

Family Problems  Not rated yet
I am 16 years old. Ever since summer I have not been getting along as well with my parents. I have never had particularly high self-esteem; during the ...

I Always Have to Find a Problem   Not rated yet
I need serious help. My last relationship lasted 5 years. During the third year he cheated on me. I forgave him but would always bring it up. Like I fed ...

Respect Within the Couple  Not rated yet
Hello,

My boyfriend's got an old friend from Uni (female friend, recently married) who since we've started going out has used every opportunity to offend ...

My Mother Needs Help!  Not rated yet
... or maybe I do. My mom drives me crazy! I've tolerated her silently for 27 years because voicing my feelings would do nothing but cause her to verbally ...

Kissing  Not rated yet
My boy friend does not like to kiss. He is a great guy and a person of strong positive character. He is really fun and adventurous. He is also quite ...

How Can I Help?  Not rated yet
I have been dating a guy on and off for a year. He is a good person, he has a good heart but he has many emotional issues that have been destructive to ...

Pathological Narcissist  Not rated yet
I am a 15 year old teenage boy and when I was younger about 6th grade I suffered from trauma. My mother tried taking her own life and for the next two ...

I Get Weak When People Touch Me  Not rated yet
Hi, I wanted to know if you had any ideas of why it feels like I get weak when people touch me? My mother says it is all in my head, but is it?

Ben'...

Meditation and Depression  Not rated yet
Hi, I suffered from depression about 10 years ago but was fine ever since. About 6 months ago, I did a course where I was taught how to do this breathing ...

Breaking Apart Inside  Not rated yet
When in therapy and things get difficult i feel like I break apart inside, into many pieces, I bring myself back together by focusing on the repetitive ...

Can't Let Go of Bad Things  Not rated yet
When ever something bad has happened I either get depressed and think out revenge (although I have never done it) or I believe it is my fault (although ...

Depression and Intimacy... What can I do?  Not rated yet
Hello.
Long story short… I met a man and we dated for a month. Had sex five times. Everything seamed good (except for the lack of sex). He broke ...